I am a widow of a viet nam vet, whom I loved and was married to for 40 years.  Now I am lost without him.  He died of Stomach cancer in 2006.  We have one son who will not talk to me or have anything to do with me since his dads death.  I wish there was more support for the widows.  We lived it too.  Our country gives the widows nothing but grief.  I am also disabled and could use some support.  My husbands family has told me I am no longer in THE family and always spend holidays and everyday alone with no help.   How can I ever get over the loss of my husband and son?